Membership is Muscle
It has been said that in fraternities, "brotherhood is the bones, but membership is the muscle." This analogy is accurate, because no matter how great the brotherhood, no chapter can successfully function if it doesn’t have the men to do the job. In order to have enough men to conduct a successful athletic program, a quality social program, and meet the financial and organizational needs of your chapter, you need to have a strong membership recruitment program.
If your chapter couldn’t get the social with the top sororities because you didn’t have enough men, you know how important recruitment is. If you didn’t win that important football game or didn’t produce the winning float in the Homecoming competition, perhaps it was because you didn’t have enough members with the specific talents and abilities necessary to do the job. Every TKE chapter is involved in countless activities, and it takes a team effort to achieve success. If your chapter "team" is going to have a winning season, then it’s important that you have a good recruiting effort this and every year.
The men who join today will shape and lead your chapter’s accomplishments in the future. The more who join, and the higher the quality of those men, the greater your chapter will become.
Quality vs. Quantity
It is impossible to go for high quality without a thought about quantity. And it is impossible to set a high recruitment goal without some regard for the quality of the men. Simply put, quality and quantity are not mutually exclusive. They go hand in hand.
Quality means sharp, purposeful men who will contribute to the Fraternity’s future through in a concern for the internal well-being of the chapter. As we increase in size, we increase the number of sharp, good quality Tekes. Soon the percentage of good quality men in your chapter will increase.
In his doctoral thesis, Dr. William V. Muse, Past Grand Prytanis, concluded, after studying more than 70 chapters of many national fraternities, that the single most important factor in determining whether a chapter was dominant on campus is its size. Without fail, the better chapters on a campus were the larger ones. The poorer chapters were the smaller ones.
The oldest excuse for weak recruitment is that the chapter has elected to take a few "quality" men instead of "just taking everybody." Interestingly enough, the chapters who use this line almost invariably have the problems of low Grade Point Average; below-average membership; low levels of participation in campus organizations; poor, mediocre or non-existent reputation among other Greeks, particularly sororities; poor intramural results, and a large amount of money owed to the chapter. In reality, true "quality" recruitment can be determined by how many potential members you turn down, not how many you take. Taking 25 out of 200 men will yield better quality than seven out seven.
If a chapter achieved its recruitment goal, the Recruitment Chairman will be glad to tell you, "We did great...We got 25 guys!" If the chapter fell short, "quality" becomes an excuse. "We only got four guys, but they’re quality guys." By no means does a small recruitment class mean that the men you recruited are not quality men. Saying that the quality of those men makes up for failing to meet your goal is nothing but an excuse. If you want your chapter to be great, you need a large number of quality men. You need to set challenging goals and meet them.
Have you heard this argument? "We don’t want to get too big like the other chapters on campus. Half of them don’t know each other. We don’t want to lose our strong brotherhood by getting too big." It’s an excuse. Close brotherhood is a function of how the membership is built and developed and the level of trust, respect and communication in the chapter; it is not a function of size. Contrary to the opinion of many small chapters, the brotherhood in large chapters tends to be good because there is a team atmosphere and members work together toward goals, while, on the average, there are more disputes, personality conflicts and placing of blame in chapters with fewer members. Lack of success makes people defensive and eats at their confidence. The frustration of not having enough resources and manpower to achieve the success we want, and the necessity of having many members perform tasks they either aren’t qualified for, don’t enjoy, or simply don’t have time for, can destroy the foundation of a Fraternity.
The fact is that there is no quality versus quantity argument. Strong chapters have both.
Why Membership Recruitment?
It would be easy to sit back and hope that just because you put recruitment activity dates on the calendar, quality men will come to you and want to join. But it doesn’t work that way. Membership recruitment requires hard work. It takes a great deal of time and effort on the part of all chapter members to find quality men and convince them that they should join TKE. Good prospects won’t just come to you - you have to go to them. It’s a big job.
"Why bother?" some may say. "We’ve got a close group of members right now; if we just pick up a few new guys we’ll be alright." The answer is simple: membership recruitment is the future of your chapter. If your chapter has a strong recruitment effort, it will grow stronger, while a weak recruitment will make it weaker. New members bring new talents, skills, interests and abilities which will only make the Fraternity experience better for all chapter members. The more quality men you have, the more resources you have that can be called upon when your chapter is facing a challenge and striving for excellence.
Attitude
Unless we have a positive attitude toward everything we try, our chances of success are very poor. With membership recruitment, this is very important. This doesn’t mean that things will go well simply because you have a positive outlook. But it does mean that you must approach membership recruitment with confidence and the knowledge that your hard work will produce positive results. It means looking for opportunities, not looking to criticize. How many men would we get if we were to approach them with a less than positive attitude? Would you have joined TKE if the Frater who talked to you had not been convinced that TKE was the best thing for him?
But be careful - positive attitude alone won’t make you successful. There is one more very important ingredient that must be considered - work...the willingness to do the job. A good Fraternity works to be good. If we have our programs well planned and organized, the tasks will be much easier.
The work and attitude are the means to success. Knowledge of the work to be done will help to create the positive attitude. For this reason, the Recruitment Chairman must have a very thorough knowledge of recruitment techniques and be able to communicate these ideas to all of the members of the chapter. He must train the chapter and help determine a strategy and management model, but must also set the tone for how the chapter will approach membership recruitment.
Recruitment Chairman
The key to an effective membership recruitment program is for the Prytanis to appoint a Chairman who will accept the responsibility of organizing and executing it. Because the Prytanis must work well with the Recruitment Chairman, and understands the work and responsibility involved in holding that office, it is important that the position be filled by appointment. The Chairman need not be a great recruiter himself, but must be able to inspire others to action. He must be organized, he must be a hard worker, and he must have the right attitude. Other than the Prytanis, the Recruitment Chairman is the most important person in the chapter.
It is not the responsibility of the Recruitment Chairman to be the team’s Most Valuable Player, though. He is not responsible for recruiting all the new members for the chapter by himself. The Chairman is the coach who must bring out the best in all of his players so the team can win. Like any good coach, he must put the right players in the right positions, teach the fundamentals, and inspire the team. A great Recruitment Chairman makes all-star recruiters out of his Fraters.
Upon selection, the chapter must give the Recruitment Chairman complete responsibility and authority for conducting an effective recruitment program. It is the responsibility of the Chairman, with his committee, to bring the membership of the chapter equal to or larger than the largest Fraternity on campus. It is the responsibility of the chapter to fully support the Recruitment Committee to ensure success.
Recruitment Chairman Qualifications
The MQB consists of the Prytanis, Hegemon, Recruitment Chairman, Chapter Advisor, a representative from the Board of Advisors and two at-large undergraduate members. The MQB develops and recommends recruitment standards for approval by the chapter. The standards must be objective and measurable, and should be a listing of the qualities the chapter is looking for in new men.
First, the MQB must meet to generate recruitment standards for recommendation to the chapter. Once the recommendations have been compiled, they should be brought to the chapter for discussion and voted on for approval. Setting high standards will help you recruit highly qualified, motivated new men, and help you assure that the chapter will continue to prosper.
What Type of Men Should We Look For?
In selecting new members, look for men with potential. Find those men who will contribute something to your chapter. Studies of Student Body Presidents over a period of five years at six universities clearly pointed out that "generally men who became Student Body Presidents did not have highly successful high school backgrounds. Instead, they were highly ambitious men who were frustrated at the high school level." Don’t ignore this type of "diamond in the rough."
You will have to make decisions on who will be asked to join. Friendship and potential are important factors. However, you need to be objective with your recommendations. Here are some areas to consider:
The Interview Process
Early in the recruitment period, the interview process should be explained to potential members.
The interview is an opportunity for members of the MQB to ask the prospective member a series of informal questions and provide him information about the benefits and obligations of membership. The discussion might focus on his high school involvement, academic record, and past involvement in outside activities. The MQB may also want to discuss what he can bring to the Fraternity and what he thinks he can gain from it. During the questioning, ask the prospective member, "If you were to receive a bid to join Tau Kappa Epsilon, would you accept it?" This is not an offer to join, but a way to determine his interest early.
If the entire MQB interviews the new man, he will probably feel nervous. To make him more comfortable, create a number of interview boards by splitting the members of the MQB into sub-boards, with one or two MQB members heading each one. Then fill out each interview board with a few Fraters who know the prospective member. With preparation, a board of three or four Fraters can conduct an effective interview. Provide a relaxed atmosphere so you can get to know what the prospective member is really like. Choose a comfortable location. This is an informative conversation, not an inquisition.
The MQB should use a written Evaluation Form when meeting with each person. After the meeting, the MQB should measure the prospective member against the recruitment standards, and, based on their evaluation, make a recommendation to the chapter whether or not to bid him. The MQB does not determine who receives a bid - that is determined by a chapter vote. The MQB simply makes a recommendation based on the recruitment standards and their interview. However, if the chapter chooses, it may authorize the MQB to extend the bid.
The MQB is the key quality control mechanism of the chapter. Their role in interviewing potential members and ensuring that they meet the chapter’s standards is paramount to long-term stability.
Sample MQB Interview Questions
Sample Recruitment Standards
To qualify for membership in our chapter, a prospective member must meet or exceed the following:
The Recruitment Committee must serve in two main areas. The first area, and often the most neglected, is the organization and training of the chapter membership. You’ll want to do this by conducting a recruitment clinic to discuss and review the basics.
The second main area of responsibility for the Recruitment Committee deals with the actual program and procedures for recruiting potential members. Your committee will want to develop a recruitment strategy and plan a program of events and functions which will attract new members to your chapter.
The Recruitment Committee should compare the activities of other fraternities on your campus with your chapter’s own activities. What are the most successful chapters doing? What are the least successful doing? What worked for your chapter in the past? What didn’t? These are just a few of the questions your committee should consider as it maps out this year’s recruitment program.
Designing a Winning Program
Good chapters are innovative; they develop new programs and ideas each year to meet a changing campus environment. It is important that your committee work together to develop these new ideas and plans since a group will generate more ideas than any one individual. Fresh event themes, new activities and tactics will give your chapter an edge over other chapters on campus who are using outdated ideas and programs. Be creative!
All good programs are very specific and are planned well in advance. Remember, your program should include:
Carefully consider all the activities that will be included in the recruitment program. As you develop your plans, you must remember to include a great deal of personal attention. Men don’t join fraternities because of brochures, parties, or activities. Men join fraternities because of personal attention from chapter members. Men join because people are interested in them, in what they have to say, and what they can contribute as new chapter members. Good chapters know that every new man is important.
Remember, even if you don’t think a man will join, he will tell others his impression of your chapter. Give every prospective new member personal attention. It will pay off for your chapter in the long run.
Conducting a Retreat
To plan an effective strategy, your chapter must conduct a retreat. This is the opportunity to set a goal and design a strategy well in advance of the recruitment period. To ensure a successful recruitment program for your chapter, you’ll need all chapter members at the retreat for their input in developing plans and making assignments.
The intent of a retreat is to take time away from your normal environment and go someplace where you will be able to focus on the task at hand, in this case planning your recruitment strategy. The most effective retreats are held away from campus and daily distractions in a setting like a lodge or conference center. Generally, you will want to take a full day for your retreat. If the facilities are available, you may want to conduct a two-day retreat and spend time overnight at your retreat site. However you choose to conduct your retreat, it is important to give the chapter members at least a month’s notice of the date, time and place of your retreat so they can clear their calendars and complete any work necessary. It is important that your membership is focused for this retreat.
For this retreat, you will need large pads of paper, markers, and tape or tacks so that everyone in the chapter can visualize the strategy as you work on it.
Setting a Goal
All good recruitment programs include a goal - the specific number of new members that the chapter is looking for and a specific deadline for their recruitment. This should be the first task addressed at your retreat.
Before setting a goal for your chapter, you should consider a number of things. First, you need to ask, "How many new members do we need?" Perhaps your chapter has a number of seniors graduating this year who must be replaced. Or, the chapter may need more men to fill a new house. To be a campus leader, your chapter will need plenty of members with a wide variety of talents, skills and interests. As you set your goal, think carefully about how it will affect your chapter’s size in relation to the other fraternities on your campus.
Finally, set a goal which is both challenging and realistic. How many men did your chapter sign last year? How many men did the largest Fraternity on your campus recruit? Set your sights high, but remain realistic. Make sure that your goal can be achieved with hard work on the part of all chapter members. Most importantly, be specific with your goal. Pick a number. That is the only true way to gauge how successful you were in achieving your goal.
Choosing a Strategy
A recruitment strategy is a specific plan of action designed to achieve your goal. Your strategy will serve as your battle plan and will direct all chapter efforts. It must address all areas of the recruitment process, and cover all the details. If you know what you want to happen and how you want it to happen, you can ensure that the Fraters of the chapter will work together to make it happen.
Creativity is important in any recruitment strategy. New ideas and activities will give your chapter an advantage over others on the campus. The best strategy will include a variety of activities to give each prospective member a good idea of what "Fraternity" is all about. In addition to regular recruitment events, integrate regular chapter activities in the program. Your events should allow prospective members to meet Fraters, develop friendships, learn about the Fraternity, and should include a great deal of personal attention for each man.
A good recruitment strategy should:
In any recruitment environment, good follow-up can make the difference between the success and failure of a recruitment program. Be sure to include strategies for personal follow-up in your plan. This may include assigning prospective members to existing members or creating follow-up teams.
Good recruitment literature and publications should be an important part of your chapter’s strategy. Groups on your campus may already be printing brochures, pamphlets, and other handouts. Carefully consider how your chapter’s publications compare to those of other fraternities. Any publication produced by your chapter should look professional and should outline all aspects of your chapter’s operations (scholarship, character, leadership, teamwork, service, brotherhood, etc.). PowerPoint Slide and video presentations can also be important recruitment tools. Be sure that your chapter’s strategy includes plans for all these public relations materials.
If your chapter is on a campus with very few recruitment restrictions, your strategy will be different from that of a chapter on a campus with a highly formal system. In either situation, the basic ideas and strategies will still work. What is important is to determine what will work for your chapter in your situation to achieve your goal. Take the ideas below and adapt them to your particular campus situation.
There are three major recruitment strategies that have proven successful for TKE chapters. Choose the one that will work best for your chapter.
Teams
A popular strategy is to divide the chapter into three or more teams. Establishing teams can create friendly competition within the chapter, and can also help all members of the chapter understand their responsibilities within the recruitment strategy.
The Recruitment Chairman should determine the team lineups to ensure a balance of talent among the teams. Announce the teams at the beginning of the retreat, and allow them time to meet together and get comfortable as a team. Also, have the teams give themselves names. This will help give them a sense of identity and will be a fun way of recognizing them.
In a team structure, you have many options. You can assign the responsibilities for each event to a team so that the work is equally distributed. You may choose to keep event responsibilities with the Recruitment Chairman and his committee, and assign each team to a block of residence halls to ensure that the entire campus is covered. However you decide to use the teams, they are an effective way to evenly divide the workload and get everyone involved.
Dual Recruitment Chairman
Some larger chapters choose to have two Chairmen because of the amount of work required. For this to work well, it is imperative that the chapter conduct the retreat and clearly define the separate roles. Two people doing the same job are not very effective and can be confusing for all involved, but splitting the Chairman’s job between two Fraters can allow each man to specialize on a specific area. For example, you could have one Chairman responsible for publicity and marketing, while the other is in charge of events.
In this strategy, the Prytanis takes on more responsibility because he must make sure that the activities of both Recruitment Chairmen are coordinated. This strategy still employs a committee, and both Chairmen utilize the committee for assistance.
Committee Delegation
In this strategy, the Chairman delegates certain functions to the various members of his committee. Each of these committee members may choose to form sub-committees to help them with their responsibilities. The sub-committees may be as follows:
Contacting Prospective New Members
Once you have identified a number of men who may be interested in joining a Fraternity, you need to contact each prospect personally. The face-to-face approach is always best and is much more effective than a telephone call, Email, or letter. This is probably the most important aspect of recruitment. Always try to make a good first impression with any potential member. Written invitations or a printed calendar of chapter activities will help to remind each prospect to attend your chapter’s activities.
In a restricted recruitment system, contact with prospective members prior to the formal period is limited. Carefully check the rules on your campus as you make your contact plans for inviting new men to functions, and review them with your Greek Advisor to clarify questions you may have.
Here are some ideas to help you as you contact prospective new members:
Everyone in your chapter should understand that these events are designed for recruiting new members - nothing else. This doesn’t mean walking around with a serious demeanor, but there will be plenty of opportunities for socializing with Fraters, watching television, and hanging out at other times during the year. If you expect to conduct a successful recruitment program, everyone should enjoy the events, but all Fraters must concentrate on the job at hand.
The calendar of events should balance regular chapter activities with specific events. Recruitment events should always include name tags, a sign-in book, literature, and posted information concerning future activities.
Get a good mix of events. Schedule a chapter activity, like a football or softball game, followed by a more formal function where prospective new members wear name tags, sign in, etc. This will give each prospect an opportunity to not only "talk" Fraternity but to "do" Fraternity. Also, don’t forget to allow time for chapter members and prospective members to relax, study, and "recharge."
For an event to go well, you must address every detail. The environment should be controlled so that you can facilitate success. This will mean intensive planning before each event and evaluation after. There are many factors to address in a recruitment event, and to ensure that they all go your way, you must address them in your event plan. Creating a flow chart is a good way for Fraters to visualize what will be happening and when it needs to be done. Remember, we must act as a team for recruitment to go well, and all the players must know the game plan.
One of the most important details in preparing for an event is the floor plan. You must know how many entrances and exits there are and make sure they are manned with capable greeters who can guide people into the general area, and you must make sure that the first impression a prospective member gets when he comes through that door is a positive one. You may want to have certain people positioned at certain points in the room, and you may want to have designated floor generals or event coordinators to ensure that everything is going smoothly. Before the event, think about what is going to happen and plan for it. Leave nothing to chance.
Paying attention to the five senses also makes an impact on the success of your event. To have an overall good experience, you must appeal to every sense. This means making sure that the event is well lit and the room or house is clean, that you have appropriate music playing, that the place smells good, that the temperature is comfortable, and that the food tastes good. All recruitment events should include food of some sort.
When planning any recruitment activity, begin with the end in mind. You want both prospects and members to have fun at the event. Everybody commits time and energy to something that they have fun doing. Understand also how the prospective members should feel when they leave the event. They should leave feeling 1) good about themselves, and 2) good about TKE. If these ends are met, you can be assured that people will come back.
Recruitment Event Ideas
Recruiting Between Events
While a great deal of membership recruitment goes on during events, potential members are usually sold on the Fraternity by the personal contact that occurs between events. That is the time when it doesn't even feel like membership recruitment and when friendships are made. Although this type of contact must be casual and relaxed, you cannot simply leave it to chance and hope that it will happen. You must have a plan of attack for following-up between events incorporated into your recruitment strategy.
The best approach between events is to make it personal. Take the list of prospective members from your file, and assign one or more Fraters to everyone on your list. Make those Fraters personally responsible for following-up with prospective members, making sure that they are escorted to events, visiting them, taking them to lunch, and ensuring the meet as many members of the chapter as possible.
The Recruitment Chairman should have a tracking system to oversee the contact and follow-up of prospective members. He may want to create a chart and post it in a visible place so that all chapter members may see who is being followed-up with and what work is being done. It is also a good idea to have Fraters report on their contact with prospective members so that the Recruitment Committee can stay informed of the progress being made with each prospective member.
Whatever your approach, it is important that you have organized, effective follow-up. It can make the difference between success and failure.
As your chapter plans your recruitment program, you will want to carefully consider the rules pertaining to membership recruitment on your campus. Often, chapters are not allowed to extend an invitation to join a Fraternity until after a certain date or certain requirements are met. Also, some campuses only allow bids to be presented in writing by an impartial source. Once you understand the rules for bidding in your particular situation, you'll want to decide the following:
Remember, personal attention is what sells Fraternity membership. When you ask a man to join, it should be in a warm and personal atmosphere. Here are some ideas which you might incorporate into your chapter's recruitment strategy:
Whenever you ask a man to join, you should always offer him a written bid. This formalized approach conveys the importance of his decision. Also attempt to give the bid in a private setting. The atmosphere should be controlled and free of time constraints.
Once you've decided on a particular recruitment strategy, you'll want to sit down and schedule all the events that will be included in your chapter's program. The Recruitment Committee should meet and go over the school calendar, discussing the various alternatives for the date and time of each event. Make sure that your schedule does not conflict with campus or community events and that appropriate time is allowed for chapter members to follow-up on a personal basis with each prospective member.
Once your committee completes its timetable, be sure to review all the events in the chapter meeting. Then, post a large copy of the calendar in a prominent place, and distribute copies to each Frater. It's important that each man understand all the events, their dates, times and locations. Have enough copies of the calendar printed so that chapter members can hand them out to all prospective new members. Finally, be sure to order supplies, refreshments, and materials for all your recruitment functions far in advance. Avoid last minute headaches and problems by planning ahead, ordering ahead, and having supplies on hand be fore recruitment even begins.
Developing A Budget
A budget is a spending plan. In order to use the limited financial resources of your chapter effectively, you'll need to come up with a recruitment budget. The Recruitment Committee should decide on a budget figure for supplies, flyers, and each event. The combined total of all these functions and any additional costs will make up your chapter's total recruitment budget.
If the budget is greater than the funds available to the chapter, the Recruitment Committee will need to decide which events will be eliminated or cut back, or decide if they will try to raise money or have events sponsored. As the committee considers spending reductions, it should set priorities to avoid cutting essential programs. It is usually better to have a number of inexpensive functions rather than one or two large, expensive parties or events.
Income from chapter members and chapter accounts should be figured conservatively. At the same time, expenses for each function should be calculated liberally so the committee will be able to keep the recruitment budget balanced and can avoid overspending on any one event.
Once the budget is finished, it should be approved by the Prytanis and Crysophylos to guarantee that it fits within the overall chapter budget, and then distributed to all chapter members. Event chairmen who are responsible for the planning and execution of each specific recruitment event should understand that they will only be allowed to spend the amount budgeted for their specific event. It's up to the Recruitment Chairman to control costs and monitor expenses.
Sponsorship
There are a number of costs involved with a successful recruitment program, but not all of the funding must come from your chapter's operating budget. Since membership recruitment is a time when you generate a lot of publicity, you can use sponsorship from local businesses to help fund your events. Every time you create a flyer, poster or t-shirt, you have space that can be used for advertising. Talk to businesses in your community that rely heavily on student business, and offer them the opportunity to sponsor your recruitment program. You can offer them advertising space in a brochure, on a flyer or on a t-shirt in exchange for a financial or other contribution. For example, if you are hosting an event where you need food, you may be able to get a restaurant to provide food for you if you are willing to display a banner or promote their business in some way.
Cooperative arrangements with businesses are beneficial for all parties involved. You have the access to students and student business that they need, and they have money and products that you need. Working together, everyone can win. Remember when talking with businesses that you must be professional in your presentation and prove to them that sponsorship will benefit them.
The atmosphere at the recruitment clinic should be relaxed so there can be discussion and a free exchange of ideas, but is important to remain focused on the task at hand.
Review the Recruitment Program
The recruitment clinic is not necessarily the place to determine goals and strategies - that should be done at a separate recruitment retreat. The clinic is the place to ensure that the chapter members know and understand the goals and the strategies that you will use. This review should be done at the very beginning of the clinic to present a "big picture" view of the recruitment program so members will understand how all the details you will discuss later in the clinic fit into the plan.
The beginning of the clinic is also the best time to review the campus and IFC rules and policies. Emphasize to the chapter the importance of understanding and following these rules.
Skill Development
The major focus of the clinic should be to develop recruitment skills in every Frater and develop his confidence in his ability to use them effectively. The best way to teach and develop these skills is through active discussion and experiential learning. A lecture on recruitment techniques is likely to be forgotten, but if members are involved in activities in which they can practice techniques and develop ideas and tactics, they will remember them and be excited about recruiting.
For each of the following skills, you may want to distribute copies of the skill description to all the Fraters and read them aloud. Encourage members to ask questions, and discuss some of the concepts involved in that particular skill. Then do the activities described at the end of each section and give everyone a chance to try these skills and learn from each other. After each activity, conduct a short debrief to make sure that everyone has a solid understanding of the ideas and feels comfortable with the skill.
Introduction and the Art of Conversation
To get to know someone, there's got to be an introduction. All of your Fraters were once strangers until you were introduced; every new person you meet presents a challenge and an opportunity. You may not hit it off with everyone, but there is the chance that you can make a friend who could become a Frater.
You can probably think back to a time when you had the opportunity to introduce yourself to someone, but you were reluctant and hesitant, and the moment was lost. Sometimes our fears are stronger than our desire to make contact. Remember, though, when introducing yourself doesn't work out as planned, the worst you can fear is temporarily injured pride or a minor dent in your self-esteem. The most realistic attitude for you to have toward future introductions is that it will be interesting to see what happens.
Here are a few steps that will help to make for a smooth introduction and facilitate conversation in any situation. They are simple, but not simplistic - we often just forget to use them.
There is a risk involved in meeting and starting a conversation with a stranger, but the potential benefits far outweigh the potential drawbacks. Put your fears aside, put the risk in perspective, and remember that your conversation with a prospective member is an investment in TKE.
| Activity Role play a recruitment event. First, have one Frater act as himself, and another act as a prospective member that doesn't know anything about TKE and doesn't know the person he is about to meet. Let the two meet and talk. After a few minutes, have the chapter give observations and feedback. Point out the positive things the Frater did and the things he could have done better. Once you've finished this exercise, split the chapter into members and potential members, and have everyone practice. Give everyone the opportunity to play both roles, and let Fraters exchange feedback and observations on how their partner performed. |
Following-Up
After you've met someone, the key to making him a friend and Frater is following-up with him. Because a formalized recruitment setting can be unnatural, it's hard for a prospective member to tell if you are really interested in him as a friend or if you are just being nice. If you follow-up effectively, he will know that your interest in him as a friend and potential member is genuine. Here are some elements of effective follow-up: